Woman Told Her Childhood Friend Off After Learning the Friend Secretly Had Her Removed From a Job the Friend Helped Her Get

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It started as the kind of favor friends are supposed to do: a tip about a better job, a warm connection, and a shot at finally getting ahead. But for one woman, that opportunity quietly disappeared after she learned the friend who helped set it up was also the one who asked for her to be taken out of the running.

In the original post, she explained that a childhood friend encouraged her to apply for a role that would have changed her finances fast—an apprenticeship that would guarantee an $80,000 salary after 12 months. The friend’s father-in-law was an executive at the company, and the friend helped secure a phone interview with him. The woman said she felt hopeful afterward and waited to hear back.

A life-changing job lead, delivered through a “trusted” connection

At the time, the woman said she was working hard but stuck in low pay. She’d worked at Subway throughout high school and university, then landed an entry-level position at an accounting firm doing data management for minimum wage. The apprenticeship offer sounded like a real ladder: stable money, a clear timeline, and a path out of scraping by.

That’s why the friend’s involvement mattered. This wasn’t a random online application. The friend was vouching for her, leveraging a family connection at the executive level, and essentially signaling, “I believe you can do this.” The woman said she took it seriously—and expected that, at minimum, she would be allowed to compete for the role on her own merits.

The dinner conversation where the truth slipped out

While waiting for a response, she met her friend for dinner and asked a simple question: had the position been filled? Instead of a status update, she got a confession. The friend told her she had asked her father-in-law to remove her from consideration.

The reason, the friend said, was that she didn’t think the woman would take the job seriously. The friend pointed to two things: the woman had recently started a new relationship, and she was considering moving interstate in about a year.

In the moment, the woman didn’t blow up. She said the friend’s partner was present, they were in the friend’s home, and she felt too uncomfortable to fully react. When the friend asked if she was upset, she said no—choosing the path of least conflict in public and saving her real feelings for later.

The text exchange that ended a 20-year friendship

The next day, she sent a text telling her friend she actually was upset. She said it felt wrong to go behind her back and pull her from consideration for something that could have changed her life. The goal wasn’t a screaming match; it was accountability and, ideally, an apology.

Instead, she said her friend doubled down. The friend repeated that the relationship meant she wouldn’t take the job seriously and framed it as protecting her own reputation. To the woman, that explanation didn’t land. She said she’s the type to give 100% at any job, and the friend’s decision felt less like “looking out” and more like control.

The lack of remorse seemed to be the breaking point. The woman wrote that she didn’t feel her friend understood the harm, and she didn’t see any willingness to make it right. After that exchange, she blocked her friend’s number.

For the next two years, they didn’t speak. The woman described that silence as a relief—less drama, less unpredictability, and no more second-guessing whether her friend was actually on her side.

Old memories, new patterns, and a history that didn’t feel harmless

The job sabotage wasn’t the only moment she couldn’t shake. In her post, the woman described another incident that made her view the friendship differently in hindsight. She said her friend once took her phone and called her boyfriend—someone she’d only been dating for a few months—while he was out with a friend, and asked him “if he had a big dick.”

When the woman tried to get her phone back, she said the friend made her chase her around her apartment while squealing “like a little girl.” The next morning, the friend brushed it off with, “You’re not upset with me right, he won’t care.”

Layered together, these weren’t just awkward jokes or boundary slips. To the woman, they pointed to a pattern: interfering in her life, testing limits, and then minimizing it afterward—especially when the interference had real consequences.

The wedding invite, the stalled apology, and the attempt to reset

After two years of no contact, the friend reappeared in an unexpected way: a wedding invitation sent to the woman’s family—her mum, her sister, and her—along with a note addressed to her mum. In the note, the friend said she never imagined they wouldn’t be friends and that she didn’t feel she could apologize anymore, but still wanted them at the wedding.

That phrasing stung. “Didn’t feel she could apologise anymore” landed less like regret and more like closing the door while still asking for a show of support. Still, a few months later, the woman decided to reach out. She said she had happy childhood memories tied to her friend and wanted to see if they could talk.

The answer came back cold. The friend said it wasn’t worth it anymore, she wanted to focus on her family, and told the woman to “have a good life.” It was the kind of message that doesn’t invite a conversation—it ends one.

When the friend came back again, she wanted a reply on her terms

Three more years passed before the friend reached out again. This time, the tone shifted: she said many difficult things had happened in her life, and she’d realized life is too short. She added that they both made mistakes and asked if the woman ever thought about her.

The woman didn’t respond. Not because she didn’t understand grief or growth, but because the history was heavy, and she didn’t know what she could say that wouldn’t reopen everything. A week later, the friend followed up with a passive-aggressive message asking her to at least confirm she saw the note—suggesting a thumbs-up would do.

That final push seemed to crystallize what had always felt off: even the reconnection attempt came with a demand for a certain kind of compliance. Not a real acknowledgment of what happened, not a clear apology—just pressure to engage.

What people tended to focus on: trust, careers, and the cost of “connections”

In stories like this, the biggest reaction usually isn’t about the original disagreement—it’s about the power play. Using an executive family connection to quietly block someone from a job isn’t a small friendship misstep. It reaches into someone’s ability to pay rent, plan a future, and build a career.

People also tend to notice the way the friend framed it: she positioned herself as the one taking the risk and therefore entitled to decide the outcome. But the woman wasn’t asking for a guaranteed hire. She was asking to be evaluated fairly, without someone else deciding she was unworthy based on a new relationship and a hypothetical move a year away.

And once a relationship has a track record of boundary-crossing—messing with someone’s phone, humiliating them, then dismissing it—the job sabotage doesn’t look like a one-off. It looks like the clearest example of something that had been there for a long time.

Now, the woman is left with a choice many people recognize: keep the good childhood memories where they belong, and keep the door closed in the present. For her, the silence wasn’t just an absence of friendship. It was peace—and she isn’t sure she wants to trade that for a reunion that still doesn’t come with real accountability.