Woman says her husband asked her to help raise the baby from his affair — and the update made the whole situation look even worse than the first confession

A Reddit user says her marriage effectively ended the moment her husband admitted he was cheating and then followed it with a request that sounded almost unreal. In the original post, she wrote that he told her he had been having an affair with a coworker, that the coworker was pregnant, and that he wanted his wife to help raise the child. According to the post, he even tried to sell the idea by saying custody would be shared, so they would still “have time for ourselves.” She said she was so sick over it she arranged to leave the flat the next day and stay with her sister while preparing to see a divorce solicitor after Christmas.

What made the first version of the story hit so hard was how little room he seemed to leave for reality. She said he did not really deny the affair, did not act like divorce made sense, and instead tried to talk as if the marriage could somehow keep going with an affair baby folded into it. In comments included in the BORU post, she said he claimed the coworker was married too, though even then she was already saying she did not trust much of anything he told her. She also explained that she was the one moving out because both their names were on the lease, so legally she could not force him out of the flat.

Then the April 4, 2026 update made the whole thing look even uglier. She wrote that her husband had lied about major details almost across the board. The coworker was not married, she said, but engaged. He also lied about how far along the pregnancy was, claiming she was not even halfway through it when she was actually more than eight months pregnant. On top of that, he had told his wife the affair had lasted less than six months, but she later learned it had really been going on for almost two years. She also said coworkers and management had known before she did, even though he told her they only found out afterward.

The detail that seemed to hit readers hardest was where that timeline overlapped with the rest of her life. In the update, she said the affair was happening while she was caring for his mother, who had dementia and lived with them for the last year and a half of her life. She wrote that her mother-in-law died in November, that she had no regrets about caring for her, and that the husband’s family was horrified by what he had done. Even then, he still did not want a divorce. According to her, he claimed he regretted the affair, said he loved her more than anything, and repeated that he wanted her to help raise the baby he was having with another woman. Her response was much clearer by then: she had hired a solicitor, she was not staying, and she wanted nothing to do with him or the baby.

What makes the story stick is not only the cheating. It is the level of unreality around it. The affair had already gone on for almost two years, the other woman was nearly ready to give birth, and he was still trying to talk like his wife could simply absorb the consequences and keep the relationship intact. The BORU thread frames it as ongoing, but the wife’s side of it sounds pretty settled already: the trust is gone, the lies kept growing, and the marriage appears to be over whether he accepts that or not.

What do you think — was the affair itself the real breaking point, or did it become something even worse the moment he tried to pitch his wife on helping raise the child?