Woman says her husband confessed to cheating after a suicide attempt — and months later she says he left her and their baby to start over with someone else

A Reddit user says the first shock was not the cheating by itself. It was finding her husband on the floor after he left a note, then learning the affair only in that same crisis. In the original post collected by Best of Redditor Updates, she wrote that her husband had been treating her badly for about a year while she was breastfeeding and struggling with a low sex drive, something she later learned was common postpartum. She said he became anxious, pushy about sex, and so different from the man she thought she knew that when the cheating confession came, it landed on top of a year of behavior she was already trying to make sense of.

What made the story feel especially unsettled was that the emotional whiplash did not stop after the hospital. In the post, she said he survived, appeared calmer afterward, and even started asking how she felt. But instead of bringing relief, that shift made her nervous. Commenters warned her that a sudden calm after a crisis does not mean the deeper problem is fixed, and she admitted she felt overwhelmed, exposed, and like nobody was really asking what the whole thing had done to her.

Then the update turned the story again. In the April 6, 2026 update, she wrote that about two weeks after the original post, he told her he wanted to start dating other women again, have sex, fall in love, and build a family somewhere else. She said he downloaded a dating app, began seeing another woman, and within about a month had moved in with her. According to the wife, he looked happy, no longer suicidal, and fully focused on his new life. She also said he effectively abandoned their daughter emotionally, even though he was paying child support.

That was the part that seemed to hit Reddit readers hardest. The wife wrote that she had not necessarily been demanding reconciliation after the affair, but she was open to seeing whether counseling and real work could salvage something. Instead, she said that when she brought up counseling, he answered by telling her he wanted to date other women. In one of the ugliest details from the update, she said he was open enough about it that he would tell her when he was going to meet this new woman, making the whole thing feel less like a messy separation and more like a brutal discard.

By the end of the update, she did not sound triumphant or clear-eyed. She sounded wrecked. She wrote that she was still sad, still humiliated, and still caught up in the version of him who used to be good to her before everything changed. Commenters pushed back hard on the idea that his cheating was somehow caused by a temporary drop in sex after childbirth, but that belief clearly still had a hold on her when she wrote the update. That is part of what makes the story stick: it is not a neat revenge story. It is a woman trying to process betrayal, trauma, and the speed with which the father of her child seemed ready to erase the life they had built.

The Reddit BORU thread is here.

What do you think — was the marriage really over the moment he cheated, or did the real rupture come later when he made it clear he was willing to leave both her and their daughter behind?