Teenager Told His Dad’s Pregnant Girlfriend That He Wants Nothing to Do With the Baby, Just Like His Father’s Other Three Kids

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A 17-year-old counting down the months until his court-ordered visits end says he finally stopped biting his tongue when his father’s pregnant girlfriend pushed for a relationship he never asked for. The teen, who has spent most of his life living with his mom and seeing his dad just one day a month, told her plainly that her baby won’t change anything for him.

In the original post, the teen lays out a family history that’s already splintered: a mostly absent father, multiple half-siblings he’s never bonded with, and a new pregnancy that’s bringing long-simmering resentment to the surface. Now the girlfriend is demanding an apology, the father is pressuring him to make peace, and the teen says he’s not backing down.

He says he grew up as an “only child,” even if the paperwork says otherwise

The teen describes being raised by his mother, with his father present in the narrowest sense—one day a month, consistently, but never more. That schedule, he says, wasn’t optional. His mom and he tried to end the visitation arrangement, but a judge kept it in place because his dad never missed a visit, meaning it would continue until the teen turns 18 in October.

Over the years, his father dated multiple women and had three other children. The teen says his mom was offered the chance for him to know those kids, but he wasn’t interested and she declined on his behalf. Those children are being raised by other men their mothers married, and the teen says his father pays no child support for them.

Money sits underneath the whole dynamic. The teen adds that his father owes his mother a large amount, but she won’t tell him the exact figure until he turns 18. That detail doesn’t just add resentment; it turns every “family” request into a reminder that the relationships haven’t been built on care or consistency.

The pregnancy became a loyalty test he didn’t agree to take

When the father’s new girlfriend became pregnant, she knew about the teen. What she didn’t seem to understand was why he didn’t show the excitement she expected. The teen says she repeatedly invited him into the pregnancy experience—baby-shopping trips, a “special scan,” moments that many families treat like bonding opportunities.

Instead of feeling included, he felt cornered. He writes that the girlfriend seemed “genuinely shocked” when he didn’t accept the offers, as if enthusiasm was the only acceptable response. With each invitation, the unspoken message got louder: act like a big brother now, and everything will feel normal.

But for the teen, “normal” has never looked like a close, growing family. He says his reality is a father who shows up just enough to satisfy a court order, while building new households elsewhere. That’s not a foundation for instant sibling closeness—especially with a baby he didn’t choose to bring into his life.

The moment it blew up: “He already has three kids I have nothing to do with”

The turning point came when the girlfriend asked him directly why he wasn’t “gearing up to be a big brother.” She told him she assumed he’d be happy to have a sibling “after all this time.” That framing—like the baby was a gift that would fix what’s missing—seems to have pushed him past his limit.

He responded with what he describes as blunt honesty: this isn’t the first child his father has had with someone else, and he has nothing to do with the other kids, so this baby will be no different. He told her he considers himself an only child, and that won’t change “because he knocks up women at random.”

The girlfriend got upset and, according to the teen, initially wanted to believe he was lying—until he convinced her it was true. Then came the plea: she asked why he cared so little when he could have lifelong relationships with his siblings. The teen’s answer wasn’t soft. When she cried and said she wanted “so much better” for her baby, he told her she “picked the wrong guy to have that with.”

After that, she locked herself in a room for the rest of his visit. Before he left, his dad tried to get him to apologize. He refused.

After the visit ended, the pressure followed him home

The conflict didn’t stay inside his dad’s house. A few days later, the girlfriend texted his mother asking for an apology—and asking to hear that he would “actually try to be a good brother” to her child. The mom ignored the message, but the teen expects the issue to come roaring back the next time he’s required to visit.

That’s what makes this more than a one-time argument. There’s a schedule. There are mandatory visits. The teen can’t just block numbers and avoid the household until feelings cool off, at least not until his 18th birthday arrives and the court order ends.

It also sets up a tense dynamic for the girlfriend as her pregnancy progresses. She appears to have imagined a family where the teen plays a visible role—shopping, scans, excitement, and eventually babysitting or bonding. The teen is saying, in effect, that he’s not a built-in support system, and he’s not going to pretend otherwise to make anyone feel better.

What people zeroed in on: the dad’s pattern, and the girlfriend’s expectations

Even without a long thread of included comments, the teen’s story points to the same practical focus many readers tend to have in these family blowups: patterns matter. This isn’t one baby with one complicated introduction. It’s the fourth child with different households in the background, and the teen says his father hasn’t built real relationships across them.

The girlfriend’s insistence on an apology also stood out as a kind of escalation. Rather than accepting a teenager’s boundaries—even if delivered harshly—she routed her demand through his mother. That pulls more adults into the conflict and raises the stakes for the next visit, because it signals she wants to negotiate his feelings like a contract.

And hovering over everything is the ticking clock: October. The teen’s close to aging out of the arrangement that forces these encounters. For him, the cleanest path may be to keep his head down until then, but the girlfriend’s push suggests the next few visits could be more confrontational, not less.

In the meantime, he’s left with a familiar problem in families built on obligation: one side wants him to play a role he doesn’t feel, and the other side can’t make him feel it. With a baby on the way, his dad’s household seems to be hoping for a fresh start. The teen is making it clear that, for him, it’s just another chapter in the same story—and he’s already planning his exit.