Person Says Their Sister Blasted Their Grandmother at the Funeral — Then Still Expected the Inheritance Split They Were Promised

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A 21-year-old says she was ready to correct what she believed was an unfair inheritance split after her grandmother died. Her grandmother had left her almost everything and left her older sister much less, but the poster planned to share the money evenly anyway.

Then the funeral happened.

In a Reddit post, the poster explained that she and her 24-year-old sister lost their parents when the poster was only 2. The sisters were raised by their grandparents, and after their grandfather died when the poster was 12, their grandmother became the main parental figure in their lives.

For years, the poster said things were fine. Their grandmother had raised them, cared for them, and built a home around them. But the relationship changed after the older sister came out as bisexual.

The poster said she had seen her grandmother be supportive toward LGBTQ people outside the family, but when it came to her own granddaughter, that support did not carry over. Her grandmother kept pushing her sister to date a man, arguing that since she was bisexual, she still had a “choice.” The sisters tried to get her to understand, but the tension kept getting worse.

About a year before the post, the grandmother’s health declined. She died a few months later, leaving behind money she had saved from work, the grandfather’s life insurance, and the sale of the farm she could no longer manage.

A few days after the death, the sisters learned the will did not split things evenly. The poster received about 90 percent. Her sister received 10 percent.

The poster believed she knew why. In the comments, she admitted the split was likely because of her sister’s sexuality. Because of that, she told her sister she would give her enough from her own share to make the inheritance equal.

That promise did not last.

At the funeral, the older sister got drunk and gave a speech. According to the poster, she stood up and talked at length about how awful their grandmother had been for not accepting her. She called her selfish and said no one should cry over the loss of such a horrible person.

The poster was crushed. She had prepared a eulogy but said she was so hurt she could not give it. She acknowledged her grandmother’s homophobia was wrong and said she and her sister had fought with her about it many times. But she also felt the funeral should have been a place to mourn the woman who raised them, not a place to publicly destroy her memory.

To the poster, her grandmother was complicated. She had been loving and supportive for much of their childhood, then deeply wrong and hurtful in the final years after her sister came out. The poster did not want to defend the homophobia, but she also did not want every good thing erased at the funeral.

After that, she stopped speaking to her sister.

A few weeks later, the sister called about the inheritance. She had already received the 10 percent from the will and was asking about the additional 40 percent the poster had promised to give her.

The poster refused.

She told her sister that if their grandmother was such a terrible person, then her sister should not want money earned and saved by her. The sister accused her of stealing, lying, and going back on her word.

The poster hung up, but the question stayed with her: was she wrong for withholding the extra money after what her sister said at the funeral?

Commenters said the promise mattered

Commenters were rough on the poster. Many said the funeral speech was inappropriate, but they still believed the poster was wrong to break her promise after already admitting the will was unfair.

A lot of people focused on the reason behind the 90/10 split. The poster herself believed her grandmother had likely punished the sister for being bisexual. Commenters said that meant the inheritance was not merely a family decision the sister disliked. It was one final rejection from the woman who raised her.

Several commenters said the sister’s funeral outburst sounded like grief, anger, and years of rejection coming out in the worst possible setting. They did not all approve of the timing, especially because funerals are also for other mourners, but many felt the poster was ignoring how painful it must have been for her sister to learn she had been written down to 10 percent.

Others pointed out that the poster had promised to make the split equal because she knew the will was unfair. Taking that promise back because her sister reacted badly made the money feel like another punishment.

Some commenters did side with the poster or give an “everyone sucks” judgment, saying the sister should not have gotten drunk and attacked their grandmother at the funeral. But even many of those people still thought the poster should keep her word.

The outcome

The post ended with the sisters still apart. The older sister had her legal 10 percent but wanted the rest of the equal share she had been promised. The poster was hurt enough by the funeral speech to refuse.

The argument was not only about inheritance. It was about two sisters grieving the same woman in completely different ways. One remembered the grandmother who raised them. The other remembered the grandmother who rejected her after she came out and then left proof of that rejection in the will.

By the end, the money had become the last battleground over what their grandmother’s love had really meant — and whether a promise made to repair that damage could be withdrawn after one painful public outburst.