Woman says her roommates kept bringing random men into the apartment at 1 and 2 in the morning — and after one drunken guest started pounding on her bedroom door, she grabbed her things and left

A 25-year-old woman on Reddit said the apartment she once loved became unlivable after her two roommates stopped treating it like a shared home and started treating it like an after-hours crash pad for men they barely knew.

She wrote that she lived in a three-bedroom apartment with two other women, Anna and Jess, both 22. When they first moved in together, they all agreed on a few basic rules: no unannounced overnight guests, no strangers showing up super late, and respect for noise because everyone had early mornings for work or school. At first, she said, things were fine. Then Anna and Jess started bringing random guys home at 1 and 2 a.m., often after nights out or after matching with them on dating apps.

She made clear that the issue was not that they were dating or having a social life. It was that she was waking up in the middle of the night to unfamiliar men in her home without warning, and she had no idea who they were, whether they were sober, or whether they were safe. The first major scare came when one of the men walked into her bathroom without asking. Another time, around 2:30 in the morning, a different guy tried to open her bedroom door, apparently thinking it was Jess’s room. She wrote that it scared the hell out of her. (reddit.com)

She said she brought it up several times, calmly, and explained exactly why it made her feel unsafe and disrespected in her own home. Every time, the response was basically the same: “sorry, it won’t happen again,” or “you’re overreacting.” Then it would happen again anyway. The final straw in the first post came one night when she woke up at 2 a.m. to loud voices and laughing in the living room and found two more random guys there. She lost her temper and told them this was seriously not okay anymore. Instead of hearing her out, Anna and Jess accused her of being uptight and “no fun” and said she was acting like they could not live their lives in their own apartment.

Two days later, she came back with an update, and the situation had gotten even worse. After making the post, she said she tried one more time to sit down with Anna and Jess and have a calm conversation. She repeated that the problem was not their social life itself. It was the constant stream of random men showing up late at night, the previous incidents with the bathroom and bedroom door, and the fact that she no longer felt safe sleeping there. Instead of being even a little more understanding, both roommates doubled down. Jess told her she was being “paranoid” and “controlling,” while Anna said she was “killing the vibe” of the apartment. They claimed they had every right to have whoever they wanted over whenever they wanted because “we’re adults now.”

Then the very next night, the thing she had been afraid of happened again. This time, she said Anna and Jess had three guys over super late. One of them was so drunk he knocked over a lamp in the living room. Then, around 2:15 a.m., he started banging on her bedroom door because he “wanted to use the bathroom.” She did not open it. Instead, she grabbed her things, left the apartment, and went straight to her boyfriend’s place.

By the time she posted the update, she was staying with her boyfriend temporarily while figuring out what to do next. She wrote that he had been extremely supportive and told her she could stay as long as she needed. She had also already told her landlord what was happening and had officially started the process of breaking her lease and looking for a new place. She said it sucked because she had genuinely loved that apartment when they first moved in, but it was no longer worth the constant anxiety or the risk of staying.

In the end, the whole situation changed fast. What began as a simple roommate complaint about late-night guests turned into a woman realizing she was not safe in her own home anymore. She had tried rules, repeated conversations, apologies, and one final sit-down. None of it mattered. The only thing that actually changed the situation was her leaving.

Original Reddit post.