Woman Says Her Coworker Found Her Hidden Apartment — Then Said She Wanted to See Her “In the Flesh” Every Day

A 25-year-old woman says she moved to a new state for a fresh start and a new job, only to end up avoiding the office because one coworker kept pushing her way into her life, her gym, her meetings, and eventually her home.

She explained in a Reddit post that she started the job in December after moving hours away from home. Another woman at the company, 36, had started only a few weeks before her. At first, the coworker seemed a little quirky, but the poster did not immediately feel alarmed.

That changed after a couple weeks.

The coworker started contacting her constantly by text and through the company communication app. The poster tried to keep her responses dry and boring, hoping the woman would get the hint and stop asking to hang out. But the hints did not work.

Then the coworker showed up at her home.

The poster said she lives in a tucked-away spot and never gave this coworker her address. On a Sunday, she was outside with her husband and friends when the coworker appeared. The woman said something about walking around to see if the poster was outside.

That explanation made the poster feel even more uneasy after she thought about it. She is not outside often, and her apartment is not obvious from the street. She does have a unique car color, so she wondered if the coworker had found her place before and was waiting for a chance to catch her there.

The timing was also bad because the two had a work retreat the next day. While standing outside the poster’s home in front of her husband and neighbors, the coworker said she was excited because she would finally get to see the poster “in the flesh” every day that week.

That line hit differently because the poster had been choosing to work from home even though she lived within 10 minutes of the office. She was doing that largely to avoid seeing this coworker.

The home visit was not the only thing that bothered her.

The coworker had told her she was the “new version” of her best friend back home and even gave that dynamic a nickname. She also forced herself into the poster’s gym class after overhearing her talk to their boss about needing to leave a few minutes early to beat traffic and make the class.

According to the poster, the coworker immediately got on the gym’s app and signed up, saying she would go with her. Afterward, the coworker talked about swimming together, working out together, going to more classes together, and even thanked the poster for inviting her.

The poster had not invited her.

That part bothered her so much that she said she loved her gym but was considering canceling her membership because she was afraid of running into the coworker there.

There had also been physical boundary issues. One morning, the coworker had been cleaning a toilet at work after it overflowed. About 30 minutes later, she touched the poster’s back with unwashed hands. The poster later told her over the company app that she did not like being touched.

The coworker still tried to touch her again on other days and claimed she forgot.

That made the poster feel especially unsettled because the first incident left her feeling so contaminated that she went home shortly after arriving and worked from home for the rest of the day.

Then there were the comments about her husband.

At a company lunch early on, the coworker reportedly joked three times about the poster and her husband getting divorced. Another coworker noticed and asked what the woman had against a husband she had never met.

The coworker also said she planned to join whatever church the poster and her husband found in the area and tag along every weekend.

At work, the behavior continued. The coworker jumped into one of the poster’s meetings with only one other person there, not to discuss the meeting topic, but to ask about the walking pad the poster was using. She then said something like, “So what I’m hearing is I can come over and you can work from your desk and I’ll work from your couch.”

During other meetings, she asked when the poster was coming into the office, said they needed to catch up, and texted asking if she would ever see her again because she had been working from home so much.

The poster said the coworker also texted late at night about things unrelated to work. She had tried not answering or only reacting to messages instead of engaging, but the woman kept reaching out.

Then, after all of that, she showed up at her house on a Sunday.

The poster felt stuck because part of her worried the behavior might not be enough to get the coworker fired, and she did not want to be responsible for someone losing a job after moving for it. She also worried about retaliation. But she had a work retreat coming up, and the idea of being around this woman every day made her anxious.

In an update, she said the coworker tried to fist-bump her the next day. It seemed small, but the poster saw it as another attempt to touch her. She ignored it.

Then the coworker brought up how nice it had been the day before — the day she had come to the poster’s house — and later asked if they could carpool to the retreat. The poster said no.

She planned to speak to her bosses when they arrived at the retreat.

By that point, the issue was no longer just an overfriendly coworker. The poster was avoiding the office, thinking about quitting her gym, documenting unwanted contact, and worrying about how someone she barely knew found her home.

Commenters overwhelmingly told her she was not overreacting. Many said the coworker’s behavior sounded frightening and obsessive, especially the part where she showed up at a home address the poster said she never gave her.

Several commenters told her to contact her boss and HR immediately. They said the coworker’s behavior at work, through the company app, during meetings, and outside work all needed to be documented. A few advised keeping screenshots of every message and blocking the coworker’s personal number so all communication had to go through work channels.

Others said she needed to stop worrying about being “mean.” Commenters pointed out that the coworker was the one ignoring boundaries, not the poster. If consequences came, they would be because of the coworker’s behavior.

Some commenters suggested being blunt in writing before escalating to police: telling the coworker not to contact her outside work, not to come to her home, and not to touch her. Others said HR still needed to know even if the poster also sent a direct boundary message.

A lot of people were disturbed by the combination of behaviors: the home visit, the gym class, the church comment, the divorce jokes, the touching, and the idea of working from the poster’s couch. Individually, some might be dismissed as socially awkward. Together, commenters said, the pattern looked much more serious.

The strongest advice was to document everything, involve management, and stop giving the coworker access to more of her life.