Man Says His Roommate Expected Him To Disappear for a Full Weekend So Her Family Wouldn’t Find Out She Lived With Men

In a Reddit post, a man said he was sharing a three-bedroom apartment with two other students when one of his roommates came to him with a request that immediately rubbed him the wrong way. According to the post, the roommate wanted him out of the apartment for an entire weekend because her brothers were coming to visit, and she did not want her family finding out that she lived with two male roommates. He said she also wanted him to move his toiletries into his room so it would not look like a man was using the shared bathroom.

He explained that this was not some casual inconvenience he could easily work around. He said he did not have another place to stay, did not feel comfortable asking his girlfriend for a place to crash, and did not have the money to spend on a hotel just to stay out of an apartment he already paid rent for. What really pushed him over the edge, though, was her response when he pointed that out. According to him, she brushed it off and told him that finding somewhere else to stay was “your problem to solve.”

The man said he was already frustrated with the living situation before this happened, and he described the demand as the latest in a string of unreasonable behavior. He claimed that earlier on, the same roommate had asked him to keep his toothbrush in his bedroom because she did not like the bright yellow color and said it gave her a headache in the mornings. At the time, he said he went along with it because he had only recently moved in and wanted to keep the peace. This time, though, he felt like the ask had crossed a line.

He initially tried to handle it calmly. After reading replies from other Reddit users, he said he planned to tell her no, explain that he could not afford a hotel, and make it clear that he was willing to stay out of her way during the visit but was not willing to leave the apartment entirely on his own dime. He also said he asked the other roommate to sit in on a meeting so they could talk it through face to face.

But before that meeting could even happen, the situation took another turn. The man said his roommate took his attempt to schedule a conversation as a rejection and sent him a long rant over WhatsApp. He summarized the message as her saying she was not going to let him ruin her relationship with her family, that if he would not leave, he could pay for the hotel himself, and that she expected him to move out by the end of January. He said the other roommate responded to all of this with a thumbs-up, which made the whole thing feel even more hostile.

At that point, he said he started taking precautions. He contacted the landlord to clarify his rights under the lease and said the landlord told him all three tenants were on a shared lease and no one could simply force him out or change the locks. He also said he packed up his important documents and moved them to his girlfriend’s place in case things got worse. As the tension kept building, he started looking for another apartment and documenting the condition of his belongings in the shared space.

When he finally told his roommate no directly, he said it turned into another screaming match. He told her he would leave eventually, but only on a legal timeline that worked for him, not on a demand she made because of a family visit. Then he reminded them that some of the shared items in the apartment, including the coffee maker and even the washing machine, actually belonged to him. He said that set off even more arguing, especially when he decided he was no longer interested in leaving his things there for everyone else to use.

By the end of the update, he said the coffee maker was headed to his girlfriend’s place, his landlord knew what was going on, and he was preparing to get out as soon as he could. But he made one thing clear: he was not going to vanish for a weekend and spend money he did not have just to help someone hide a living arrangement from family members.