Woman Says a Guy She Hadn’t Even Met Kept Saying “Us” — Then Made AI Art of Her for a Playlist

A 23-year-old woman says she was trying to ease back into dating after a rough streak when a man from a dating app started acting like they were already in a relationship before they had even met in person.

She explained in a Reddit post that she had been taking a break from dating but was open to something long-term again. The man, 26, also had a dating profile that said he wanted a long-term relationship, so on paper, it seemed like they might be looking for the same thing.

They matched while she was away on a trip, and the two started texting. Right away, the pace felt like a lot.

She said he texted constantly, which she did not love. She tried to explain that she could not keep up with messages as quickly because of the time zones while she was traveling. He seemed understanding about that at first, but the volume and tone of the communication still felt intense.

Within the first day of talking, he asked her to send him a selfie. She did not mind at first because he seemed normal enough. But every time she sent a selfie or said anything even slightly complimentary toward him, he responded by saying he was going to “bite” her.

At first, she thought it was playful and maybe even cute. Then it kept happening.

The repetition started bothering her. It was not one flirty line that landed awkwardly and disappeared. It became frequent enough that she began wondering if the tone was moving too fast and too physical before they had even had a first date.

Then he started sending kiss emojis and gifs.

She made it clear she was not prudish, but the behavior still felt like too much too soon. In her experience, this kind of early intensity had sometimes led to situations where the guy was exactly what she suspected: overly forward, overattached, or coming on too strong in a way that later became uncomfortable.

He also talked a lot about future dates.

For their upcoming date, he told her to leave the planning to him and said he would lead and handle everything. On one level, that could sound nice. Plenty of people like when someone takes initiative and plans a thoughtful date. But combined with everything else, it gave her a disingenuous feeling. She could not tell if he was genuinely thoughtful or just saying the things he thought she wanted to hear.

Another comment gave her the same feeling. She casually mentioned that she had a headache, and he responded by telling her to take care of herself with a wide-eyed, cutesy emoji.

That bothered her more than she expected.

She said it felt performative and paternalistic, the same way she dislikes when someone says, “Did you eat today?” in an overly caretaking way. To her, they were adults. They had not met yet. He did not know her well enough for that tone to feel natural.

Then came the playlist.

He made her a playlist, which could have been sweet. But the presentation made her uneasy. The cover art was a clearly AI-generated image of her, including her nose piercing and facial features, sitting on a train. He knew she was traveling by train, and the image also included visual references to the place she was visiting.

When she asked how he made it, he said it was “computer science wizardry.”

That answer struck her as odd. She had a STEM degree, so she understood what AI was. She wondered why he would not simply say it was made with AI. Something about dodging that word made the gesture feel less charming and more strange.

He also became “playfully” upset that she had not made him a playlist too.

That confused her because she had not known there was an exchange happening. He made the playlist after she gave him movie recommendations, so she thought they had already swapped something personal in a casual way. His reaction made it feel like he had created a romantic expectation she had not agreed to.

The rest of his messages kept building that same artificial closeness.

He would say things like something would be better if she were there. He talked about cuddling. He sent pictures of two cute animals and captioned them like they were the two of them.

They still had not met.

That was the part she kept coming back to. Everything looked right on paper. He was nice, respectful, eager, asked questions, had a similar ethnic background, and seemed open about himself. But the way he was texting made her feel like he was trying to create a relationship atmosphere before there was an actual relationship.

She wondered if she was reacting from old dating wounds. Maybe her radar had become hypersensitive. Maybe this was a fearful-avoidant reaction, and she was looking for danger where there was only enthusiasm.

But she also knew her knee-jerk reaction was to pull away and cancel the date.

In the comments, she later said she had already tried spacing out replies by days and using a more withheld tone, but he still did not get it. He maintained the same overenthusiastic energy.

After reading responses, she decided to cut things off. In an update, she said she sent him a brief text ending the connection, and he took it well. After that, she blocked him.

The outcome was not explosive, which may have been a relief. But the discomfort still mattered. She did not have to wait until after the first date to decide the pre-date connection already felt too intense.

Sometimes “nice on paper” is still not enough when the pace feels wrong.

Commenters mostly told her she was not overreacting. Many said the issue was not that each individual thing was terrible on its own. It was the pattern: constant texting, “bite you” comments, kiss gifs, future-date talk, “us” captions, and a playlist before they had even met.

Several people described it as love bombing or “us bombing,” where someone creates a sense of closeness before a real relationship exists. Commenters said that can feel flattering at first but quickly becomes overwhelming.

A lot of people focused on the AI playlist cover. Some thought it was creative, but many understood why it felt weird to make a detailed image of someone he had never met and then dodge the question when she asked how he made it.

Others told her that discomfort does not need a courtroom-level explanation. If she felt put off before the first date, she was allowed to cancel.

A few commenters said he might simply be awkward, eager, or incompatible with her flirting style rather than dangerous. But even they generally agreed that she did not owe him a date if the communication already felt wrong.

The clearest advice was to trust the early ick. Dating is supposed to feel interesting, not like a job where someone is already assigning you emotional homework before the first meetup.