Woman says her husband begged for an open marriage — and she says the fallout wrecked their finances, their home life, and any chance she could still look at him the same way

A woman on Reddit said her marriage started falling apart the moment her husband pushed for an open relationship she never wanted in the first place. In a story later collected by r/BestofRedditorUpdates, she wrote that he kept pressing the idea until she finally agreed, only for the arrangement to blow up both emotionally and financially in ways she says neither of them could control once it started.

According to the BORU thread, the damage did not stay in the abstract “our marriage feels off” category for long. The woman described the fallout as something that ruined their lives in very practical ways too, with the relationship spiraling badly enough that her trust in him collapsed and her view of him changed on a basic level. In the final update comment quoted in the roundup, she wrote that she was trying to focus on healing but felt disgusted when she looked back on how much she had done for him while the marriage was breaking down.

One of the sharper details readers seized on was how bluntly she described that emotional shift. She wrote that features she once loved about him now only reminded her of how far her feelings had fallen, saying she used to notice his eyes and lashes but now only saw his acne scars and bad skin. That line became one of the most talked-about parts of the BORU thread because it captured the way resentment had fully replaced affection by the end.

The roundup frames the story less as a sexy relationship experiment gone wrong and more as a marriage that already had deeper problems before one spouse tried to solve them by opening the door to more chaos. By the time readers were reacting to the final update, the real story was not whether open relationships can work. It was that this woman sounded completely done with the man who pushed for one and then, in her telling, helped wreck whatever stability they had left.

That is probably why the post stuck with people. The language in the final update does not sound conflicted or romantic or even especially angry anymore. It sounds like the moment after a long emotional crash, when somebody finally sees the person in front of them clearly and realizes there is nothing left in the image they were trying to save.

Original Reddit post: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1jd4r7k/not_previously_posted_new_updates_my_husband_has/?utm_source=chatgpt.com