My Ex’s Girlfriend Posts Photos of My Kids Every Week With the Caption ‘Our Girls’

When she opened her phone, it wasn’t a message from her ex that made her stomach drop. It was another batch of photos—dozens at a time—of her children posted by her ex-husband’s new girlfriend, framed like a family album the kids’ mom never agreed to be part of.

A 33-year-old mother said she’s repeatedly asked her ex-husband, 32, to get his girlfriend to stop sharing pictures of their children on social media. Instead of taking it seriously, she says every request turns into a fight, with her ex accusing her of being “controlling.” The posts aren’t occasional snapshots, either. She says the girlfriend uploads “60–70 pictures at a time” and does it frequently, often with captions that make her and her relatives feel uneasy—especially one phrase: “our girls.”

A fast-moving new relationship, and the kids were pulled in immediately

The timeline is part of what makes the mother feel like she’s losing control of something fundamental. She and her ex were together for 11 years, married for six, and share two children. She also says he helps raise her oldest child, meaning there are multiple kids involved in the blended family dynamic.

They separated around last Halloween and finalized the divorce in May. But by February, her ex was already in a new relationship. According to her account, the girlfriend met the kids about 10 days after meeting him and has been in their lives ever since.

Now the ex and the girlfriend live together, and the mother acknowledges the girlfriend appears to genuinely love the children. That’s what makes this so tricky: she says she doesn’t have a general problem with the girlfriend’s role in the kids’ lives. Her issue is what happens when the phone comes out and those images go online.

The posts weren’t small updates—they were huge photo dumps with loaded captions

The mother says she’s not against social media across the board. She posts her kids “not often,” and when she does, it’s limited—“a couple pictures”—with privacy settings aimed at sharing updates with long-distance family.

The girlfriend’s approach is the opposite. The mother describes frequent mass uploads, 60 to 70 photos at a time, which turns ordinary kid moments into a recurring public feed. Even if the photos are innocent, the volume changes the feel of it. It’s not a rare holiday post; it’s a steady stream.

Then there are the captions. The mother says her family has become “extremely uncomfortable” with lines like “our girls,” language that reads less like “kids I care about” and more like a claim of shared parenthood. In a co-parenting setup that’s less than a year into separation, that wording can land like a power move, even if it’s framed as affection.

Every time she asks for boundaries, she says it turns into a fight

She says she’s asked multiple times for the posts to stop, or at least to be removed, and has done it through the channel she has: her ex-husband. But she claims he refuses to intervene, insisting she’s trying to control him and his new relationship.

That response has left her stuck in a familiar post-divorce bind. If she pushes harder, she risks escalating conflict that could spill over into co-parenting exchanges. If she stays quiet, she feels like she’s giving permission for something she never agreed to—her kids’ faces, routines, and milestones being documented online by someone she didn’t choose and doesn’t fully trust.

It’s not just her discomfort, either. She says close friends and family are the ones showing her the posts. That means her wider circle is watching it happen in real time, and they’re uncomfortable enough to bring it to her attention. The posts have become a topic other people feel the need to flag, like they’re seeing a boundary being crossed and can’t unsee it.

The block added another layer: she can’t even see what’s being posted

One detail sharpened the stakes. The mother says the girlfriend blocked her on Facebook. The reason, she explains, is that the girlfriend doesn’t like that she posts about “the things my ex husband did to me” during their relationship.

Regardless of the backstory there, the practical result is the same: the parent who’s trying to limit online exposure can’t consistently monitor what’s being shared. She’s reliant on screenshots and secondhand updates from others who happen to see the posts in their feeds.

That changes the power dynamic. It’s one thing to disagree about photos when both adults can see the same information and talk about it. It’s another when one person is blocked, the posting continues, and the only visibility comes through other people’s phones.

For the mother, that seems to be part of the panic. Social media isn’t just “friends and family” anymore when you don’t control privacy settings, can’t verify who’s seeing the images, and aren’t even able to view the account that’s posting your kids.

People zeroed in on consent, privacy settings, and getting it in writing

In the the original post, the mother framed her question simply: was she wrong for asking for the photos to be removed and for the girlfriend to stop posting the kids?

Readers tended to focus less on the girlfriend’s intentions and more on the reality that these are not her children. When someone is uploading huge batches of images, the concern isn’t just “is this sweet?” but “who else can access these photos, and for how long?” Even accounts that feel private can be screenshotted, shared, and saved.

Another practical theme was boundaries that can be enforced. If requests through the ex keep turning into shouting matches, the mother may need to shift away from verbal arguments and toward written agreements, clear rules, and documentation of what she’s asking for. When co-parenting gets tense, “we talked about it” can evaporate fast, while written messages stay put.

People also honed in on the caption issue. “Our girls” may sound harmless to the person typing it, but to the other parent it can read like an attempt to rewrite roles in public, one post at a time. That language, paired with the volume of photos, is what made the behavior feel intrusive rather than supportive.

She’s left balancing peace with protection

The mother’s frustration isn’t that her ex found a partner who treats the kids well. It’s that the new partner is building an online narrative with her children at the center—one she didn’t approve, can’t fully see, and can’t seem to stop.

Her ex calling her “controlling” puts her in a no-win posture: back off and feel steamrolled, or push and get painted as the problem. Meanwhile, her family is watching the weekly photo dumps stack up, and the longer it continues, the more normal it becomes.

For now, the posting continues and the co-parenting tension is still unresolved. The only thing she seems sure of is what she wants: fewer eyes on her kids’ lives, fewer photos floating around outside her control, and an end to captions that blur the line between a girlfriend’s affection and a parent’s role.