Woman says her husband’s family booked a 5-to-6-week stay in their 2-bedroom apartment without asking her — and now she wants to leave while they’re there

One woman took to Reddit after finding out that her husband’s family had already booked a long visit to stay in their apartment, and she says the part that hurt most was not even the trip itself. It was the fact that nobody asked her before the plans were locked in. In her post, she said she is 29, got married in December after being with her husband for nearly seven years, and has always been clear about one thing: if people are going to stay in their home, that decision needs to involve both of them.

According to her post, that did not happen here. She said she found out that her sister-in-law, brother-in-law, their child, and her in-laws had all booked tickets to come stay with them for around five to six weeks. She wrote that she would have been fine hosting for a week or two, but this was something completely different. What made it worse, she said, was that she only learned how long the visit would be after the tickets were already booked.

The living setup is a huge part of why the post blew up. She explained that they live in a two-bedroom apartment in an extremely hot climate, and that during the visit there would be seven people total in the home. She also said her husband would be at work most of the day, meaning she would be the one actually in the apartment with everyone. So from her point of view, this was not simply a family visit. It was weeks of crowding, noise, loss of privacy, and nonstop hosting duties dropped right into her lap.

Then there were the lifestyle changes she says she would be expected to make inside her own home. In the post, she said her in-laws are strict vegetarians and do not even allow eggs in the house, while she and her husband normally eat non-vegetarian food as a staple. She also wrote that she already knew she would have to change how she eats, how she dresses around the house, and how she generally lives for the entire visit. That detail made a lot of readers stop, because it meant the stay was not only long. It would also change the rules of her everyday life inside her own space.

What really made the story feel heavier was that this was not some isolated misunderstanding. She said this was the one issue she had always been very clear about, and that her husband had spent years telling her he understood how much she needs space and that he would handle those boundaries with his family. But when she confronted him after finding out about the trip, she said his response was basically that there was nothing to do now because everything had already been booked. She also added that his parents already come stay for seven to 10 days every other month, and those visits were also not discussed with her beforehand.

That is when she started wondering whether she should just leave for part of the visit. She wrote that she was considering going to stay with her own parents for a couple of weeks while his family was there, just to get some space, even though they live on the other side of the country and the trip would not be cheap. She also pointed out that she moved away from her own family and friends to live where her husband works, so this apartment is basically her whole world right now. That made the situation feel less like a scheduling issue and more like a woman realizing decisions about her home were being made around her instead of with her.

Reddit had a lot to say about that. A number of commenters told her flat-out that she was not wrong for being upset and that the bigger problem was her husband treating her like she was not an equal decision-maker in the home. One of the most repeated reactions was that this was not really about guests. It was about disrespect, because once the tickets were booked without her input, she was basically being told the decision had already been made and her only role now was to cope with it.

Other commenters focused on just how intense the logistics sounded. They pointed to seven people in a two-bedroom apartment during peak summer, the husband being gone most of the day, and the pressure on her to adapt to everyone else’s routines while losing control over her own. Several people also said that if she did stay somewhere else during the visit, it would not make her dramatic. It would simply be the only way left for her to reclaim any say over her own living situation after being shut out of the original decision.

What makes the whole thing so uncomfortable is that nothing in her post suggests she hates his family or never wants them around. In fact, she said she would have gladly hosted them for a shorter visit. The real issue seems to be that she was expected to absorb a major disruption to her daily life without consent, then act like that was normal because the bookings were already done. That is the part people kept reacting to. Not the in-laws themselves, but the feeling that her husband let everyone else make plans for her home before even checking whether she was okay with them.

And honestly, that is what lingers after reading it. By the time she asked Reddit what to do, it did not sound like she was deciding whether to host family. It sounded like she was trying to figure out whether her own comfort, privacy, and basic say in her marriage were still negotiable in everyone else’s minds but hers.

Here’s the original Reddit post.

Would you leave for part of the visit if you were her, or stay and tough it out? And if your spouse let five people book a five-week stay in your home without asking, would the real issue be the guests — or the marriage?